Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[shodan]

Quick update...Friday I went out with my friend and told him the whole story. He was shocked and said that he and his W always count my W and I as the example of how a married couple should be. They always have discussed how great we are together and how they wanted to be more like us. Nice and at the same time really hard to hear.

I came home in time to see my kids. Came in the house super positive, told everyone that I had a great time. As we went to bed, my W was laying near me and put her hand on my arm and rub it, saying "I am glad you had fun tonight." She never touches me.

Sat morning we went to the same yoga class together but she was in front of me, not next to me. Before class started, I spoke with a friend of mine who sat next to me and my W kept trying to be a part of the convo. We went separately to my D10's game (I had to go somewhere before) and saw each other, but I sat away and talked with people. I then went to another yoga class later in the day and my W came as well. We talked a bit and had a good time. Then Saturday night I had made my family a dinner reservation at a local restaurant (my DB coach said to do family stuff to show I am a good, committed and strong father). My kids were not in the best mood before, so my W said that we should just go without them. I convinced the kids to come and we had a great time. When we got back, my W sat right next to me on the couch (touching me) and then went upstairs to change and came back down, put a pillow on my lap, and laid down on my to watch TV and read a magazine. I did not touch her although I wanted to.

This morning we did the same yoga class but she is with my D10 at a soccer game one hour away and I am coaching my S7 in soccer later today.

so all in all a good weekend. Probably too much interaction with my W and not enough detachment. Through it all, I remain super positive, super confident and am acting social and strong. My W even started talking to me about our next family trip.

I plan to stay the course, not mention the A and the texting and just be patient, showing her a strong, confident and fun Sho.