Thanks everyone for the advice so far. I really appreciate it.
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Get alone and take a long, deep look in a full length mirror. Study the man you see, and compare him to the man you were before M. Be painfully honest with yourself and digg deep. Next, list ways to become the man you use to be.....or better. Make short term goals that will keep you on track while you are improving as a man. All of this is about you...not her.
I will definitely do this. I know once the topic of OM is brought up, things will go south really fast so I want to make sure I am really acting out of intention and in terms of what I want in life vs acting out of emotions. I want to save this marriage but at the same time, the last 2 years have been such a roller coaster that I am ready to move on if it means avoiding another 6 months of limbo. I think for the first time, though, I am at a place where emotionally I am stable. Sure I have some sad moments here and there but for the most part I am excited about life and know that I will be okay if she is not there. That said, I very much would like my family to be in tact but know that I have no control over her decisions - only my actions.
