It's a man thing, not a volume thing.

Thankfully Starsky backed me up on this. Maybe it's not just me.

You know your H better than we do. Was he ever capable of such a conversation? If so, I'd proceed very very slowly. And the second to last point is definitely the easiest place to start. The answer you get to that question may quell the urge to ask some of the others.

Baby steps.