advice needed - please help

[stacey9]

jplove, thanks so much for sharing, these are great tips and I am going to practice them when I next see him. Its so kind of you to take the time to do this, this is hard stuff for anyone to deal with never mind with a baby on the way.

Igit, thank you too for the advice. I think I unintentionally did something like LRT earlier on in the year. It was when I first found out about OW and I was so furious I could not bring myself to speak to him and tried to make sure I was out when he came round. It didn't make any difference to him. Now I'm trying to be light and breezy around him and I think its confused him a little, but I think I may be trying to engage him too much. I was telling him stories about what's been happening in the street and with friends etc and I asked him if he was okay and how his work was going. He did not ask anything about me whatsoever. I felt a bit foolish.

It is really tough that his father and brother have had dinner with the OW and have fully accepted the situation. They feel that as he wasn't happy with me he's done the right thing. Its as if me and our 22 year marriage has ceased to exist. It has split the family up as his other brother and his wife are not happy with what he's done and are refusing to meet the OW.

It is all really tough. I am trying to do something different and act as if he is coming back. But then I think he's in the middle of this exciting new life with no real responsibilities or worries so why would he want to?

I want him to see changes in me, I certainly am much stronger than I thought I was.

And you're right Bitzie there is great advice in this thread. I can't thank everyone enough for taking the time to respond. I read over the replies regularly to help keep me focused.

Thanks again
S