So glad to hear that you are making good progress with your W. I think that you have been too hard on yourself and too absorbed in finding a quick solution to your SSM problem that you had let yourself be so affected by Corri's lighthearted manner in getting the message across with some humour.
When I first read your list, I was very impressed and thought Wow! Such a lovely letter, now if only my H would give me such a list I would be sooooo happy. (But then I am the HD wife) and my H is not an expressive man (not in words anyway but he does try his best to show me in actions that he does love me though not physically). Did you take your letter back? I hope you didn't. It appears that your W is really open into discussing this issue with you and I think only you (not anyone of us here) would understand her well enough to guage what sort of reaction you would get from her. To me, the letter was very heartfelt and you really gave it a lot of thought and IMHO you were too quick to withdraw it after reading others comments. Anyway I am glad too that after your initial reaction you did not take Corri's post too personally. Corri, as usual is very insightful and helpful to many of us here and she really gives each of our problems a lot of thought. Her post brought tears of laughter to my eyes but no I do not think you are in any way a laughing stock. Not at all. So hang in there man. Stay on here and vent. Like you, I use this place to vent so that my H won't get the brunt of it. I think thats good strategy.
