Trying to stay patient- part 5

[Train]

I think having two weeks of down-time with little to no contact initiated by you sets you up perfectly for your next MC session, at which point you will look like a million dollars and smell incredible. And (if W has not by then, on her own accord, removed OM from social media and drafted a NC letter) you will sit up straight with a spine of steel and deliver your non-negotiables - with conviction - in front of MC. And MEAN them.

I'd usually advocate not repeating those non-negotiables at all. But I'm going to agree with Wonka about you delivering them in front of MC.

No fear. No BSing. No empty threats.

Don't coddle your W any further. She has no more excuses. And don't let her pull you around by the nose anymore, Tar. You're better than that. And she IS losing respect for you the more you set boundaries and then let her plow over them.

Step 1 is NC with OM. Your M cannot begin to be healed without W completing that very "simple" first step. MC - and working on pre-A problems - is absolutely pointless if she cannot or does not complete this task.