It seems to me that there is some real hope for this if you two can get some good MC. There is no reason he has to stop enjoying his life. He must stop enjoying OW however. Something real simple is setting up a boundary until he can be honest with himself, and you. That would be best done by working it out with a MC. Don't nag him or be emotional, just be a matter of fact. And follow through. Don't have any more kids until he grows up btw. :-)
Me:40 W:39 M:Dec 95 Split: Jul 14 W Filed: 9/16/14 Several Children (including adopted)
