It is not about "hurting" the kids per se...it is how you present your POV to the them that is genuine and authentic. Present it in a way to them that shows that you still love H and very much want the marriage to work yet Dad needs time and space to figure things out. However, both Mom and Dad love the kids....that has not changed nor ever will.
Wonka I hear you. And I think H and I are going about this in as intentional and conscientious manner as we can. But my 11 year old is not going to understand why dad decided it was a good idea to get a girlfriend and go live somewhere else that's not with her. Honestly, I don't understand it and I'm pretty sure even H doesn't understand it. That will hurt no matter what words we put around it. She will be ok, but different than if this had not happened. And for a while, it will hurt.
