Am I Lying to Myself About This Marriage!

[u-turn]

There's the rub

A demand like, you need to find a new job, is trying to control things, and is likely going to cause an avalanche (in my case).

I guess that goes beyond stating and enforcing my boundaries - and into "this is you should do to work with my boundaries"

In my situation, she is new into this career, a big break for her, a way to change from a SAHM role and to get past another job that she didn't like and wasn't valued in. I will not push her to quit this job yet but am encouraging and excited when she talks about other career paths (she knows why).

We have both talked about the fact that things are not going to be right with us until they aren't working together (and even then maybe not)(I've denied this in the past and she has stated this many times - she is probably right).

She seems be looking for different paths within the same company, so she is aware of this as being helpful, but I don't know what her priorities are at the moment.

I am not naive enough to think that just because their opportunity is gone that their feelings will be gone.