(And imagining me trying this on GUBU at this point. I could just picture him grabbing his crotch while running away, screaming, "SHE TOUCHED ME!!!!!" )
Give it your A game!
---GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
Too late Wonka. I did not get to this until after the fact. I did pretty well on my own, though. Had some fun in the outdoor hot tub
Only 'issue' we ran into was I ended up having a nightmare about H and OW and woke up crying. But H was good about it, asked me what I needed him to do to help. It's interesting how the closer we get the more of the pain from the A comes up. I guess it makes some sense, though.
We chatted a bit about the A. I asked H if it was about the sex and he said no (I didn't think so). I mean it was in part because our sex life had really stalled pre-A but it doesn't sound like it was the major draw. It seems like it was primarily the talking and attention from her. He said he enjoyed talking to her. He also said that he did not feel loved by me pre-A (and obviously during). He said that he started to feel loved by me again after the A was revealed and I stuck by him and was willing to examine how I contributed to the M breakdown. He's going to research the 3 marriage counselors his C recommended and send me some info about each so we can pick one. He wants to talk about a plan to come home.
So, we're definitely on our way
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Oh...and we also talked about 'trickle truths' and how he had struggled to be completely honest with some of my questions previously. He said he's afraid to hurt me further and he's ashamed of what he's done. I can honestly say I had a bit of compassion for him. As awful as it is to be the LBS, I suspect when reality hits the wayward it must be pretty awful for them too.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
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