Very similar to my situation but my W is just about to leave . She kept telling me that she will only see the OM at work and that he will only say hello to her . It's so hard when they work together and you have got to try and trust them . Problem my W has she isn't a very good liar and almost raises a flag when she has been up to no good .
And been having to put up with the whole being protective about the phone it never leaves her pocket or hand .
I suppose though you need to agree to what your happy with and if you do think it's about the money then you will always think that .
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .