Mighty, why is it you feel like you shouldn't have unloaded?
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why does he want to rub it in and make me feel worse
I suppose you may never know the "why" but you do know the what. That leaves you with the option of acting on the what.
He's hurt you. He hurt the kids. He would turn the kids against you if he could. He obviously is ok with hurting you, or doesn't know any better how to handle things. He's moving in down the street with the new family and new life.
While that may make you uncomfortable, it's not all bad. I know from experience. It has more to do with you and how you handle things and how you perceive them. To that end, getting your feelings out is a good idea if you ask me.
It's not like you're going to let him back into your life, right?
As for the kids - they need your help. With a father like that, one who doesn't know how to handle himself let alone his kids, they need to learn how to deal with it and let that anger out. It's important. For you and the kids.
So if you have to vent that anger where it belongs, don't feel sorry about it. Don't think it's going to change him. Don't keep doing it for very long as it keeps you connected in an unhealthy way. But it's not something to feel sorry about. It's long overdue, don't you think?
Keep it to your H only. Even the OW and her mom are not the targets - just the symptoms.
I've been in your shoes (to some degree) and I can tell you that you do need to help your kids. And you need to let it out and then walk away before it consumes you. I've been there too and almost lost my job during that time.
Don't let his actions bring you down. Don't pay for it the rest of your life, Mighty.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
