You're a great dad for taking care of your children. My H doesn't really contribute besides paying for half the daycare, then i take care of the baby after work, which I don't mind but I expect him to initiate helping me. From experience, being a sahm is exhausting, and I have one child only. It seems like the separation is helping both of you figure out the relationship and yourself. I hope she feels less overwhelmed soon and things improve even more.
Me:27 H:26 T:3 M:1.5 D 6 months D bomb: 6/21/14 I Moved out 9/7/14