still holding on - 4

[Ahoy]

u-turn, you answered your own questions. Look back at Sandi's list. Don't ask the questions. The answers won't help at this point, and might make it worse (you might not want to hear her truth at this point, and it might make her feel pressured and draw away from you). She will tell you when she is ready to tell you, and your job is to be patient.

If she is asking you what's wrong, that means that you're not showing her your PMA (positive mental attitude). Remember to keep it light and friendly and GAL around her. Fake it 'til you make it! Don't let her see you down, as hard as that is. If you're feeling down, work on the yard, clean the house, organize a closet -- do ANYTHING to bring your focus to something else. And plaster a smile on your face in the meantime. Turn on some happy music. That will help.