still holding on - 4

[u-turn]

So I am in a position of not knowing what to do again (just because things are different and seemingly better). After I stated my boundary, things changed (and I think too quickly).

I don't know what if any steps could or should be taken. Or do I continue as is (as if)?

I don't know the status of OM
She doesn't bring him up during conversations about work - she knows that "gets to me".
She doesn't text or e-mail much while she is around me.
She isn't gone as much (though anything can be happening while away at work)

She is now friendly, somewhat affectionate, considerate, sending me random texts, letting me know where she is (even sending pictures as proof).

This could all be a better devised cover - I don't know. I would love to just trust everything, but how do I know?

It seems still like limbo, but at least a more pleasant limbo.

I use the word dubious often in my posts. I am still dubious - I don't know what she really wants or where she is in the whole big picture without asking. I haven't done too well reading her mind, her actions toward me indicate one thing, but the fact that she isn't wearing her ring or wanting anything more than a hug and kiss is a big indicator that she is not all in.

--I don't think she will put her ring back on until she's ready
--I don't think she will want to be sexual with me again while she's interested or (having sex with) someone else. (at least that's how it's been so far this year).

I don't know if it is appropriate or advised for me to ask the questions that I have. (status of OM, status of us).

I know that is probably a dumb newby question (and the answer is given in DR and Sandi's list) but I guess it doesn't hurt to ask that here.

Is it applying too much pressure to ask her the questions that are on my mind? Will the answers (if given to me) help us? She has asked me what's wrong and what I'm thinking - should I really tell her?

I am happy that I am detached enough to be able to look at this without acting on emotion (as I have done so much). But I know I am not detached enough to ignore everything about our situation.