This journey you are on was meant to be. I believe that with everything I have.
Could your marriage be saved? Yes, I believe in the possibility. Will you want to save it when you have done the work? Maybe, maybe not.
What I believe is that you need to make that decision from a place of strength.
That decision doesnt have to be made today.
If you decide you can no longer do this, I will support you completely.
For me, it mattered that I stood. It mattered that I was able to look back at this time and see that I acted with dignity and honor. It mattered to my son.
I am not at all saying you should allow yourself to be treated poorly. That is what boundaries are for.
My xh spewed once. I got on my tiptoes and told him that is was not ok. Ever. That was my boundary. You have to decide yours.
There is no right or wrong way to do this. Only your way.
But I can see who you are, S. I can see you need to try your hardest and that it matters to you that you do.
Get yourself a roadmap. Figure out how you want to act and who you want to see when you look back.
Whenever you are unsure of what to do, pull out the map.
You have done wonderfully. I meant that sincerely.
Stay the course for as long as you can. This should not ever be done at the expense of you. You are too important.
