Thx Pilot lol on the 3 yr Olds. Have fun your kids are only young once. I had my tball team I coached for 2 yrs now. It's a great feeling to have these kids look up to you.
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
haha pilot I played soccer as a 5 year old and I often wonder how the coaches managed to get us organized. I recall most of the time standing around chatting with my friends on the defense line until something would happen. But maybe that was because our offense was the best - we actually won the playoffs! One of the forwards had to show her birth certificate because she was so good.
I remember most of the coaches fondly. Don't be too much of a hardass though, it's supposed to be fun, not the World Cup. Not that you would! haha.
It's interesting how our situations have changed I think. You and I were kind of teaming up on the focus-on-making-myself-happy and seem-like-I'm-moving-on GAL track. And I think it backfired a little bit for us both.
Now I see that too much moving on can possibly make the WAS shut down feelings to protect themselves.
Let's hope we can both turn it around without becoming too pursuing... a delicate balance especially as a female LBS. I feel I cannot pursue at all. But then I see others like Ss asking their WAHs for lunch or dinner... should I be trying that. I have no clue.
Absolutely you should be trying that...IMO Lisa. Where is the harm in you asking your H to lunch one day. It would be a heck of a 180 for ya. Besides, a guy really feels good when a girl does the asking out. Normally us guys have to put in all the effort. Your H is likely feeling rejected enough already due to his OW, and in some part, you. Why not throw a little ego boost his way to make him feel good. It might be a good step in the right direction. Besides, it is doing something different when what you were doing before was not working.
Give it a shot!
As for it backfiring on us both. Probably. It certainly did not result in any short term gains for us. But, instead of crying over spilt milk, we can put our efforts into another pathway, and hope that there was at least SOME benefit to our previous actions. If not...well, I can always blame you
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Pilot, hate to hijack your thread! I hope you are bush waking a few tonight. I tell you I feel like I dropped the rope today. LRT. And all. It feels great! Don't know if it will last, but wife must sense something as well. She seems to be confused, she knows I was in meeting today and knows I have been interviewing for her old job. Anyway I feel like I am really ok with a D if that's what she wants. And also feel like she knows I am ok moving on one way or other and I think that maybe bothering her. Hard to explain but after almost 20yr together I can tell it's bothering her rt now. Might be mind reading! But feeling good for a change
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
Pilot, hate to hijack your thread! I hope you are bush waking a few tonight. I tell you I feel like I dropped the rope today. LRT. And all. It feels great! Don't know if it will last, but wife must sense something as well. She seems to be confused, she knows I was in meeting today and knows I have been interviewing for her old job. Anyway I feel like I am really ok with a D if that's what she wants. And also feel like she knows I am ok moving on one way or other and I think that maybe bothering her. Hard to explain but after almost 20yr together I can tell it's bothering her rt now. Might be mind reading! But feeling good for a change
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
I've noticed a really nice and consistent PMA in you. Keep it up. It sounds like it's working for you.
Like Lisa, my childhood soccer team was like herding cats. I actually remember being kicked out of a game because I kept talking to the goalie on the other team and my coach seemed to think that was not very helpful. Oh well. Turns out soccer wasn't really my thang. All that running... now I only run when chased. LOL
Thanks ss. If you only knew what my night was like and how close to a breakdown I am, I am sure you would not say anything about my PMA. Nothing W or M related. just other stuff which happened tonight and it is all I can do to not just lose it. I am hoping tomorrow it passes.
and haha @ talking to the goalie on the other team. I can so see a little girl (or boy) doing that!!!
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
igit....never think you are hijacking. I am glad you are finding peace within yourself, but I am worried for you about dropping the rope. I really want you to succeed at saving your M. Maybe this is what it will take. I want to smack your W with a reality check and let her know that there really are not that many good guys out there, despite what most look like on the surface. Spend the effort working on your M with igit!!!
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Not that you would! haha.