Can I get her back??..

[LoveMyW]

I'd be shocked if there weren't someone else, LoveHer, but it really doesn't matter -- your course should be the same. LET HER GO, WORK ON YOURSELF, and begin to demonstrate -- over time, consistently -- that you "get it" and are a changed man in regard to her prior marital complaints.

Whether that attracts her back or whether it just better equips you in your next relationship, you need to do those things. As Cadet likes to say around here "your wife has given you a gift of time -- use it wisely."

Starsky

Starsky, at this point in time I'm definite that there is no one in the picture at the moment.. I won't go in to the lengths I have gone to prove it, but it was all negative in regard to OM.. Like I have said, I am not ruling out the possibility that she wants the freedom to chase though (even though the signs aren't really there though)..

I am going to IC to work on my issues, and I am changing every day.. I am doing it for myself, and whatever happens in the M will be the cake topper (if any)..

I am subscribing to the main thought of "believe nothing of what you hear, and 50% of what you see", as like I mentioned, the whole "move on, date, I'm happy" was right in the midst of my "begging, needy, annoying".. Nothing like that has really been said since though so that has to be a good sign, or at least a plateau..

I'm going through much of the same if you want to swing by my thread.

Just took a look at your thread Gotan, and some points do seem similar.. I am fighting this battle long distance at the moment though, which could work 2 ways.. Either absence and changes will make the heart grow fonder, or give her the distance to do whatever.. Either way I plan on making MYSELF a better person.. I've dug myself out of holes before in life, but this one is by far the biggest.. I feel like I'm up the wall, but the daylight I see is still only a speck.. I WILL GET THERE THOUGH either way..

Not much else to report today.. She had a family birthday party for her mother last night, and it looked like all had a good time.. The MIL called during the evening to say that she wished I was there, but circumstances prevented that.. It's nice to know her family still care and take time for me!!..