Aww Ss what a sad conversation with your D. She sounds so smart. You handled it very well.
I know what you mean about the crying. Sometimes that happens to me too, and I am also not a cryer. I am a tough cookie, and I usually don't cry for years until something crappy like this happens!
One thing I have noticed is that usually the day after my weird crying spell I feel good. I think for me it hits when I need to get that emotion out and then I feel better and am ready for the next hurdle.
My advice - what I've tried doing - I cry as much as possible when the mood hits, I don't try to hold it in. I go somewhere alone and cry until I get bored of it or fall asleep or whatever. Usually the next day it is over. Until the next time...
I hope that the IC is a good one. I too have had bad experiences with this. Hopefully he will be honest and get good advice. But there isn't anything you can do about it. If he happens to want to discuss it with you, perhaps you can give some feedback about the role a good therapist should play, like they should never advise you to divorce unless in the case of abuse. They should let you work through your feelings and make your own decisions. That sort of thing.
