Kml, I agree about the red flags with his kids. Time will tell whether he resolves those issues. My kids don't interact with SD, then or now. But yes, they very likely will find out more than I wish. I'll have to make that call if/when the time comes how best to proceed.
The boundary thing has been a challenge for me, for sure. I definitely have codependent behaviors that will make things more difficult, as I'm already learning. I appreciate the insight, as it gives me more to consider.
I would not be completely surprised if, after the new apartment, ow, nothing "makes" h happy, he may move forward and file because he still can't figure it out. Trying to prepare for that possibility. It's not my preference, but I do know it wouldn't be the end of the world.
We have no debt. I'm monitoring the retirements and credit report. So far, he's still paying all bills, and there has been no crazy spending (only crazy style choices, lol) ... But I'm watching, and prepared to act on a D if I need to.
