We were piecing, now I'm thinking of leaving

[GoatGal]

Hi Ctflor,


You can read my thread for some insight on the whole porn addiction thing.
It is very real and greatly contributed to the demise of our M.

There was the lack of intimacy--or rather--there was sex, but no emotional connection, and it got weirder and weirder.


Long story short, when I confronted him about the porn, he blew up, denied, ultimately filed for divorce.

There was an OW in there, but she was more of an outgrowth of his growing porn problem. We could have gotten past that, he was willing to work on things, until I drew a line in the sand over the porn.

He ultimately said: "At this point I just prefer shallow (sexual) relationships and porn."

He said he didn't want to change, was too old to change.

Well, now that he's had all the time in the world to pursue his little hobby (the only one he has any more) it's starting to look like maybe it's a pretty lonely life after all.

So, for those who do not understand, this is a REAL problem. It creates great rifts in relationships, all the secret keeping, and finally, a physical inability to respond to real partners in a meaningful way.

There is help out there, but he's got to admit it and he's got to want it.

My H isn't really there yet.

I wish you all the best.

---GGG