WAW, she had an affair, separating to "think"

[jb13529]

Hi all, she is coming over tomorrow to grab more things. She called me last night in tears because leaving the apt was so hard. I wasn't really helpful, and didn't say much.

I keep thinking of the idea (Sandi2 I believe said this) that she is getting her needs met by both men, sexually/physically/laugh/play... through OM and emotional/support/help... through H.

So I am planning not to engage, comfort, or be readily available as long as other men are in the picture.


My Questions are :

1. Do I tell her why I am not comforting her? Or is that something that will simply move things along with OM? (while she is in shambles, he won't get the best her)

2. I am not in the Dark or LRT, but I have trouble knowing how to be the "good" guy, keep the relationship and the stand-still, while creating my distance and detaching. Any advice? how do I respond when she is in pain? alone?... (her relationship with OM is "light" he doesn't really want to be with her)