Matt, sorry about delayed post above. It was on screen tab for awhile, I edited not long ago & submitted. Since time does not stand still (oh no! ), quite a few posts accumulated!
All my greatest fears are coming true, one by one. My W isn't stepping up to be a "better" Now you're talking!! As long as her trigger is around, so is your 'MLCer W'!
I need to take away her power. To do that I need to think in ways that I'm not used to thinking. Like how to get over on my W. How to lie to her face while I'm doing the opposite behind her back, like she is doing to me. It's not in my nature to act this way. I'm a very up front do what I say kind of person.
Don't know what to say here. I never thought of this type of '180' or reverse psych for MLCer ... am not a vet' as u know ...
I know that W is wearing on you. You have been standing for so long are are fatigued. You've received good advice - focus on daughters, self, take time outs for yourself.
Going to post NOW before this ends up in a place long after the intended post!
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pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
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