Oh no!!!!! It makes me so sad to hear that, Starsky. I don't know first-hand yet, but from what I know based on what so many others say about their feelings for their grandchildren, this MUST be breaking your heart.
Are you going to be the one to tell your wife? I'm sure she will be devastated.
I am so sorry.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014