You don't know what the ow may think about you filing versus your h filing. She might actually be glad you did it since he's been so passive about the whole thing. You've not only set yourself free, but you've also set him free as well.
It's not about who filed first or bit the bullet to the start the proceedings. The victory is the fact that you've finally made a decision about the marriage and do not want to remain in limbo any longer. Filing for divorce will set you free to move on and maybe one day meet someone worthy of you. That's the victory.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
