It's my pleasure to pitch in on your thread, Tar. Thank YOU.

I think it's sort of a tightrope walk at this stage. I know I need to be honest with H and to tell him what I need. But I don't want to give myself permission to just unload on him all the time, realizing that maybe he "deserves" it. I need him to comfort and reassure me. But I don't want to be a victim, either. More importantly, I don't want to give myself permission to feel like one.

Seems to be a fine line between being open and honest and asking for what I need and then maybe showing TOO much of my pain and confusion.


M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014