I think in the example above, your H handled your actions as best as he could- by attempting to reassure you. He could have easily gotten offensive or shut down on you. If you are both in this R as a team, he needs to understand that you are going to have these feelings/flashbacks and help you through them.
You're allowed to have anger/sadness over H's past actions. It's good to get it out now so the two of you can move forward.
I'm wishing you the best and thanks for all your input on my thread!
