If its any consolation. My daughter just turned 16. She is in the middle sometimes because she chooses to be. I can see that it hurts her at times. She still loves her mom, but.....its really not her mom anymore, its an imposter.
I have to let her go to choose what relationship she has with her Mom, but.......... My daughter has said you are always there for me, without you this would have a lot tougher. The actions that I chose made all the difference to her. It give her the chance to try to have a decent relationship with her Mom always knowing she has a strong independent parent to catch her if she needs it.
It is sad at times to watch a young person struggle when they know something is wrong. Remember growing up at that age. a lot of emotions flowing.
Listen, validate her, walk away when shes in a mood. DB her. it works.
