WAW - no contact, now refuses therapy, file?

[AWAW]

Thanks, it is remarkable how similar each situation is. The patterns are set in stone.

Pilot, I have been following your posts and they've been helpful, you've been through a lot! Much respect for dealing with it and sharing. Let me ask you, if you could do it all over, after all the crap you've been through, would you have filed sooner instead of going through this for a year of your life?

In my situation, like many others, the signs were there. We were awesome partners and lovers but the stress of life took its toll and we neglected each others needs and the downward spiral began. Resentment is like carbon-monoxide, it secretly seeps into a relationship and kills it!

The only difference is I agreed to go to MC and she already checked out. We wasted 5 months of me really trying and she was still going further way. She has since said and done things that will be almost impossible to recover from. And, considering I'm still young and no kids, it might be best to start over even though that totally [censored]. Both our MC and my IC have said we had normal marriage issues that could have been resolved with work from both of us but since she has stopped going to MC and has walked away they said the issue is with her and there's a high likelihood of her doing this throughout her life when the going gets tough. I don't ever want to feel like this again. I stuck to my commitement of marriage while she did not, now I feel like shes forcing my hand which I think I now need for my own sanity and restoration of self-respect. I'm not a chump or doormat.