Newbie Error- LRT too Soon- help!

[Bart42]

Thanks, igit. This week and last I'm through the crying/moping/not eating/pleading bit- I've found a lot of strength here, and even though I know its going to be a rollercoaster, I feel good about my prospects for keeping this up. Took my S and his friend to a pro football game last Sunday (W not invited), have signed up for a SCUBA class for next week and will get some golf instruction the week after that so I'm working on the GAL thing, too.

Feel like the W is in complete denial, though- gave the "I refuse to work on the marriage while A continues" speech yesterday only today to get a phone call while W was running errands to "check in and say hi" and to ask whether we wanted to do dinner tonight or tomorrow night together. As in she is presuming we are doing a dinner together this week because we've been doing date night dinners for a few months now. WTF? I hedged with "we'll see what the kids schedules are and figure out the family dinner plans" but I really don't know how to handle this one- I want to be happy and outgoing and not sulk, but I know "date nights" are a no-no at this stage. Perhaps I will try to deflect this into "we can grab dinner, sure" and not acknowledge a "date night" part of it- I'm worried if I flat out say "no date nights because I told you I am not working on this marriage while the A continues" we are just going to have a sulking evening at home where we avoid each other. I'm thinking that doing dinner but avoiding any R talk may be my best bet. I've got a few hours to figure this one out though.