What's the difference? I don't give her the power. I took it back. Was it easy? H-ll no it was not. Did it take some time? Yes it did, too long but......
When you get there it is worth it. You stop living a life in reaction to them. You start living your own life on your own terms.
I'm not perfect. I still reflect very rarely about my exw's life but its in relation to how my son's or daughter are still affected. I'm past that but they are not totally past that. So I reflect on how they may be thinking and I validate and support them in dealing with a crazy, insane woman who they know used to be there mom.
Keep trying everyday to take that power you have given her and it will slowly flow back to you.
