nmwb123 many vets on this board have actually said that W living with OM is actually a GOOD thing and that OM's true colors will come crashing through faster than average. In other words,if they are together all the time they will get tired of each others sh!t faster.
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nmwb123 many vets on this board have actually said that W living with OM is actually a GOOD thing and that OM's true colors will come crashing through faster than average. In other words,if they are together all the time they will get tired of each others sh!t faster.
Exactly! That's why I want to drag out the divorce a bit. They've been living together for a little over 3 months now. They should be starting to see each other's quirks by now, right? I'm praying that those quirks will annoy them to no end.
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Your L should have several clever ways to drag it out. In my sitch we are doing a dissolution so I have to come up with my own tactics. My W's A just ended so I want at least 6 months of "trial separation", i guess, so that we can say we gave it a fair effort. I stopped helping W with the dissolution process, and it, along with moving, has almost come to a complete standstill. If she doesnt move out for a few months, and the dissolution takes 6 months, that really gives me a lot of time.
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Starsky, I remember reading somewhere that you said your wife "came back." Did she move out? Did you kick her out? During the time that she was gone, were you still in pretty regular contact?
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No, not necessarily. They're not as able to see your changes on a day-to-day basis, but on the other hand it usually helps you DETACH and remain more upbeat and positive by not having them around, sucking the life out of you every day sometimes. At least that's what people say.
I honestly would have preferred that my wife move out during our sitch, and I suggested several times that she go live with her parents during her affair. She refused.
I wish my wife would move back with her parents instead of her AP. She seems to have decided she wants to live a life of debauchery. It certainly smells like a MLC.
M 16 T 17 W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14 ILYBNIL 5/14 A discovered 6/14 D papers served via USPS 8/14 Filed my response 9/14 D final 5/15...
