The Goddess of Goats Thrives Alone on Her Mountain

[GoatGal]

Hahaha! Shining, I think you may be right. ^^^

Now for some more over-analyzing, because it's what I do BEST

Interesting how he managed to decline without actually acknowledging that I had, in fact, invited him to do something?
"I will not be going...." As though the invite fell from the sky.
No doubt another skill he's learned in the corporate world.
Also how whenever he writes the negative, especially when making a point, he rarely says: I won't/can't"
He almost always says: "I will not/cannot." Weird, huh?


But on the plus side:

* He opened up a little about feeling sad about how things have turned out.
Or is pretending to open up.
Or the moon is full.

* He said "You may not believe this"... and allowed me to validate a little.
Of course I believe it! He surely feels worse than I do. After all, he's the one that made this mess, so he's got all the guilt.

* He may be doing some soul-searching with the book/writing, whatever that's about.

* He shared with me that he is doing this ^^^--a big 180 for him. Writing is NOT his comfort zone. If in fact, that's what he's doing.

* He talked about "valuable experience", "processing"--this tells me that he *might* be doing some real thinking.

* He now knows that I do NOT hate him nor think he has cooties.

* He knows that I am willing to do things as a couple as we used to do, and that I would find that to be appealing on some level.

* He can see that I will be happy with or without him when doing these things, but now, sometimes, I might prefer WITH him.
Probably why he was so smiley yesterday.
Or not.
Or the moon is full.

Ahhhh... Amazing, isn't it? What "insights" we can try and pull from just a few simple words?

But you know what they say: "BELIEVE NONE OF WHAT HE SAYS". And I don't. Not really.
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Of course, historically he has not analyzed things like I do, but subliminally I'm sure he got the message.

I sent a follow-up email asking if he minded bathing the one dog I'll be taking to the event. "Everyone will want to see him looking and smelling his best!" Happy Crappy Pappy!

He answered, simply. "Yes".
(Probably didn't expect me to be all upbeat about going. That's right, GUBU, Horton and I are going to have some Woofs and Wine!!!)

He'll get to see us piling into the MuttMobile, Horton with his Bow Tie and me in a cute summer dress.
Oh well!
I'll be sure to tell him everyone says "Hi!"
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Anyhow. No worries about me over-analyzing this for glimmers of hope, more to see if I can glean any info and perform better in the future.

It's that "Growth Mindset".
By the way, is anyone still reading that book? Mindset, by Carol Dweck PhD.
I am really enjoying it.

I have a Growth Mindset, while GUBU has a very Fixed Mindset.
Which he COULD change. Wouldn't that be nice?


---GGG