Ss - I wouldn't worry so much about the IC. You're right, it is out of your control and you know what? It could just as easily end up being a positive. Sure, you hear some horror stories - but there are plenty of instances where it probably helped too.
That was a rough conversation with your daughter. As much as I am trying to let go of my anger and resentment towards H, whenever D makes a comment about missing Daddy, or feeling sorry for him because he is so lonely - I just want to break his nose.
I also hear you about how difficult it is when the kids are gone. Before the BD, I would have given my right arm to have a few days of peace and solitude, but its impossible to enjoy under these unnatural circumstances.
