PERSEVERANCE is Stubbornness.... with a Purpose.

[GoatGal]

Shining,

This: "Completely humiliated."

Is stink in' thinkin'.

But you know that.
No one can humiliate you! You have nothing to be ashamed about.

I felt that when I first caught on that many of my neighbors thought I was a slut.
They made assumptions about me and my situation without knowing the truth.

Him: Older, he filed against me, he's always working hard, seems like a great guy.
Me: Younger, (way hotter!) out dancing with other men.
Therefore, I cheated on him, right?

At first I thought "humiliated" suited how I felt.
Then I realized that I had done nothing to be humiliated about.

The correct interpretation of my feelings was "VIOLATED."
People were WAY into my business when they saw that divorce notice in the paper. (Before I knew anything about it too.)

I shared this with H at the time. He said, simply: "Sorry".

I was embarrassed, but more for him than for me.
I decided I would hold my head high, and set the record straight, not about him, but about me.

I said I loved him, was a good wife to him, but he just got to a point where he no longer wanted to be married. End of story.

So. Maybe find a better word? Because "humiliated" isn't cutting it.



---GGG