What to do when an EA involved?

[Hoju]

25yearsmlc thank you so much for your posts and time. You've done more to save my marriage then you can possibly know. I've read DR and had a couple phone sessions with a DB coach and still have no idea what I'm doing.

I'm at work now but I'm going to take a lot of time to reread everything you have written. You are 110% right about her wanting to slow things down, I spoke to her this morning and just said if she ever just needs an ear to listen that I was here (thank you pilot, should have done it last night). She told me everything she was feeling and really opened up, I just validated her and listened intently.

I didn't push the sale of the house, i didn't push the separation agreement, I've told the bare minimum of people, i haven't changed my facebook or twitter, i haven't stopped wearing my ring and I didn't push her to move out. I've just tried to be supportive of her in each of these steps while making sure she knew it wasn't what I wanted but I respected her decision. She's been like speed racer through this and I'm just trying to hold on for dear life. I've made things as comfortable as possible at home so she wouldn't feel she needed to leave, i wasn't pushy, i did all the chores, i never asked where she was when she wouldn't come home, i made sure i was out as much as possible. Now I don't expect anything to change but I've pushed out the realtor until next week.