Wife walked aways (two months ago now) new thread

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Pilot -

He is a recruiter at the "startup" that the W went to work for. He was the guy, in the party town showing her all the fun things. He embodied the culture of the startup and "rescued her" helping her through the process to get a job. He was witty and had good banter, and was there.

I can see the game that was played quite clearly. She was extra flirty and played the siren card pretty hard. And also was tired of people identifying her as my wife, and wanted to make a name for herself (low self esteem + over compensating ego).

Now I am the guy with the place downtown. I am the guy doing all the fun stuff. She commented a couple weeks ago that she "has done nothing" in the new town.... and that I am out doing everything.

The reality is she has been hanging out in the luxury malls, running up her credit cards and then sleeping over at losers place. She hasn't experienced anything in this new town.

What was missing from me was that I was super depressed. I had lost my mojo (my self confidence) and absolutely was not attractive mentally.

That has passed. What is crazy, is that even though life is super stressful right now, I am happier now then I was before she left.....

Case in point,

I'm in San Francisco for work this week. It is a vibrant city with great night life. I pinged an old friend of mine to meet up for late afternoon coffee. We ended up ringing some more friends moving down to a wine bar, then to an amazing little restaurant. Had great conversation, met some new people, and had a great time.

This was the me before I let my W intermesh herself into my independent life. Once she got in her mental games and manipulation separated me from my friends and I started to believe that I had low self worth.

Now I'm back. I'm charming, approachable, connected and fun. I'm living life in the best way that I can.

Divorce
Death in the family
Job change
Move

I have all of those going on right now. And I'm not cracking.

I'm back. Life can be rough sometimes, but hey. I'm a survivor.