Lets see how the WINNING Cindy would have handled the sitch better so that she does not give off the IMPORTANT impression that she does not TRUST her H..which as we know, can be fatal to any M, especially one with your history..
Quote: OK, so now I'm hot. I think he out and out lied to me plus didn't invite me. He lied about women being there. It sounded like he was dropping these women off at their place last night.
First off the WINNING Cindy does not call back at midnight AFTER her H says he'll call her tomorrow, thats the suspicious "I NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU'RE UP TO" Cindy which very few guys would be attracted to...for obvious reasons..not exactly a good move..he didn't lie to you, he maintained from the get go, he wasn't sure if girl friends were going or not, so to be honest, cut him some slack and try and be more TRUSTING ..if it becomes CLEAR that he takes advantage of that trust, then you deal with it..
Quote: I told him I was sorry about not being more clear about wanting to go to the concert with him.
C'mon Cindy, you and I both know that it was a concert he knew he was going to. If he REALLY WANTED you to go, he would of asked you..he didn't and now its your responsibility to INVITE yourself? Should you really have to drop hints? The WINNING Cindy does not apologize for that, she just says "glad you had a good time with the guys, me and my friends are going to the show FRIDAY NIGHT and we're going to have a BLAST..". DONE. Thats CONFIDENCE, thats INDEPENDANCE, and that is what works to keep him at bay, not telling him you're feelings were hurt about this and that...ya gotta be a little less FRAGILE when things don't go your way all the time..
Quote: I find that as a result of this fiasco I need to be more clear about what I want from H.
Well, OK, if you say so..go ahead..as long as you know him well enough to assume that he WANTS the same thing you do all the time...
By ALL MEANS, go the show with your gal pals friday night..ABSOLUTELY..
