Ok, first, IF you talk to her, LISTEN. VALIDATE. Do not go off into a R talk on your own. Right now she is probably overwhelmed with emotions. The entirety of the D is probably hitting her right now. This does not mean she wants to reconcile. It just means she is stressed and sad. She may very well be wondering if she is doing the right thing.

You may try this. Walk into her room and say " I am sorry you are upset I want you to know I am here to LISTEN if you want to talk." And then walk away. Do not pressure her by standing around. Let her decide if she wants to talk and if she does, she can come to you.

Just my thoughts...

****Disclaimer**** I am not current on your situation.

Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16