Jay,,
My best advice I've got for you, and it may be crap, is to rally with your girls and do everything you can to bond the three of you into a strong family unit. If your wife is done, you three will need each other a lot for the foreseeable future. If she's not done and just in the fog, maybe seeing you three being close and happy as a family, she'll realize what she's missing.

That's the best I've got.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.