This is Bob-Still hanging on

[KGirl]

We really do want to help you help yourself here in hopes of improving your M, if that's what you want and what your goal is.

I am seeing a therapist for over a year. She has me on anti-depressants.

I wanted to open the lines of communication so I forwarded my wife an email from the homeowners association this morning. All the emails from the homeowners association come to my email account instead of hers.

My wife hasn't responded.

I'm going to be blunt because I think that may be more effective than asking you to look at this more closely and think about it, given what I and other posters have mentioned before... I don't intend for this to be mean or harsh, just straightforward so it's clear. This is the same communication pattern you're repeating again of not asking for what you want, then not getting what you want, then getting mad at her. Did you ask her a question in the email? Was there something she actually needed to respond to? If not, there is no reason for her to respond and no reason for you to take it as an affront. Not to mention the fact that it's still the same day you sent it. Maybe she's busy. Are you willing to change this communication style? It seems to me that you expect her to know what you want or feel and then when she does not (because you don't make your needs or wants clear) you get upset with her and use it to further justify your position.

If you want to open lines of communication, there are other ways to do that that are more straightforward. Maybe an email that says "How are you doing? I've been thinking about you and just wanted to check in." or whatever you are in fact actually thinking. Did you ever actually contact her and ask to see the dog?