PERSEVERANCE is Stubbornness.... with a Purpose.

[juliegayle]

Shining just caught up on new thread. Wish we could sit down over coffee and compare notes. Not that it is "nice" to see the similarities between my h and your xh but it does make me feel less crazy

And the whole conversation about fear. I am so there. When I first started looking within and realizing that I was a control freak I worked real hard to fix it. Yoga meditation and meds. I am so chill now. Everyone but h noticed a difference. But that was only the tip of the iceberg and I had to figure out why I was so controlling and it came down to fear. I don't remember any fear before s was born and we thought he might not survive. Now I am afraid of everything. Like UrWorthy said... fear of failure fear or success fear of change and fear that things won't change. I am completely stuck on an exercise in a workbook I am doing about my needs being met in childhood.

You had some good realizations you mentioned in your last post. It is hard work. It will take a long time. But I have to believe we will be, better and stronger for it.