W just left the house. I told her that 3 weeks ago that she had agreed to a no contact letter and full transparency. She asked why I hadn't brought that up at MC because she thinks some rules/boundaries need set. Not sure what she means by that, but I told her I wasn't interested in any past communication, I just needed to insure it wasn't occurring going forward if we have any shot of R.
She agreed to write a letter or email and give it to me tomorrow. She still feels like I'm bullying her into it, even though she said she told OM we were going to work on things and rarely talks to him anymore. She also asked for what the letter needed to include.
I also told her that I needed passwords (and would share mine), her to defriend OM on all social media, and for all gifts/cards/etc to be thrown away.
I know this was the right thing to do, but it still felt more like pressuring/pestering than asking W to a wedding. Why do I feel 'needy' rather than strong?
