Can I just ask - is this something that's true? Did you do this? Or is this a new idea on the scene? If it's true, you have some work to do, my friend.
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but how does one transition from Dark and LRT ... toward starting to connect again .... through all this she has changed so much and I know our old M died with the BD last year, I am all for a new and better relationship/M with her and willing to put in all the work required, but for now ... we have to connect again, have to see if the new versions of us have chemistry
How? You just do. It takes two people willing to do that. Two people willing to connect with one another.
Sometimes one person has to take the risk that they will get hurt and drop their barriers. Sometimes it just takes a little step and then the other takes a step and then the other takes a step and then... But somebody has to go first and risk it. And it has to be received and reciprocated.
You know what you want. Can you see a way to get it if the two of you participate? Are you able to put your hurt aside (it's what you're asking for from her, right?) and find a way?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
