Cindy, I hope this doesn't make her put pressure on him to D me. Did you and H ever file for D? Did he use to say you will never be back together? Why did you to separate? I forget.
I agree Nitaf with what Cindy says...boy do I feel your pain and know exactly how you feel right now. I myself was there a year ago and it's brutal, but I survived, my H is back home and we're working, I think anyways, towards a better M.
No matter how bad things seem they will get better, you will become stronger, you will become someone you never thought you could be...just stick with dbing and the BB.
nine months...left April 9, 2003 with a brief return of a week in November and then a weekend in December to return, completely moved out of OW's on Jan. 2, 2004.
H has since that time spent some nights with OW, when he's been drinking, as she is an addiction similar to alcohol to my H. But, H is realizing that she didn't make him any happier and just added another layer to his unhappiness.
I filed for d...my h is the one that after 6 months wouldn't let me dismiss it. We went to divorce court once and almost a second time in February. I filed for a dismissal against his wishes one week prior to our last appearance.
He had moments every couple of months when he was absolutely positively through with me. Even dating to prove his point. But I stood firm, wanting the m and told him so each time I met to hear him say why he didn't want to be married to me.
Now here we are moving back in together. You know it helps to have someone in these types of turbulent situations that is the oasis of calm and stability. You can be that for your h if you stand firm no matter what he says and/or does. Refuse to take to heart his hurtful words and actions right now....he's not in his right mind. Stand firm and believe God will prevail!
Hey Cindy, I just want to say how happy I am for you and I wish you the best in your new future with your Husband! I am pretty lost in my situation these days but its still nice to see that some people around here are making it through still. Keep us posted! And if you have free time, I would love to womanly advice if you dont mind. Thanks so much!
Anything worth having is worth working HARD for!
Making a New Move
I love reading your updates and posts. You are one of the DBers that always gives me hope!! Thanks...
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this is exactly what I needed to hear/read today. I WILL stand firm in what I beleive in and God will prevail.
You go Girl....you deserve all the happiness you are finally getting.....you EARNED it!!
