Hi Wonka, I did talk to my lawyer. I pushed back by saying that I should get the house because I had to pay for her law suit from before we were married, that I cashed in my retirement so that we had more to live off of, this was her response to all that. That I only cashed in my retirement over her "protests". That she is paying a "majority" of D14's expenses...even though she has only been gone for less than 2 months and the only 'expenses" were $30 in lunches and going to the Dr. one time (along with the contacts). She just doesn't admit to the things I have done like take off of work because she didn't tell me D14 failed her school eye test a month before and had to see the eye Dr. BEFORE going back two days later. Or the fact that she has taken 90% of the antiques. My lawyer seems to think she has good points and much of the reason I allowed her to do things like refinance her car and put my D14 into school near her was because she LIED about not asking for the house! That will be hard to prove in court especially since she seems willing to lie about things.
I know I shouldn't have thought this but I really didn't think my W would go this low! Her sense of entitlement has become so very strong. She doesn't care that I have put myself out by picking up my D even when she is with my W. That I have spent much more of my income on our D14 as a % of what I make than she has. That for 90% of our M she REFUSED to work, even when the girls were in school and she easily could have. That for the last 8 years she wasn't a wife or mother but a selfish jerk that cared only about herself and her friends and having her daddy back in her life. What value does the court place on these things?
I had my lawyer file a writ to stop her from coming to my home when I'm not here but she had already taken most of what she wanted except the big stuff and now most of that is gone but I want it back now.
This whole idea that I get to live here until D14 is "18 years and a day" is all her fathers idea. Now I find out that she has been talking about this to our D14. On the way home from school I said to her that we may need to sell the house and asked how she felt about that. When she asked why I explained what her mom is wanting to do and she said "Yea, I knew about that. Grandpa Doug said to do that."! I, by believing her lies, have set myself back and now I find myself behind the 8 ball.
I guess the biggest thing to ask is about talking to the court about my W's mental state. I wanted to avoid that as much as possible but I guess I will just have to use EVERY means at my disposal including bringing this up. It just feels like something that is not the "high road" but it will show the court that she can't seem to keep to any agreements and why.
I'm trying to fight back but at the same time stick to the "high road". But by doing this I may find myself losing.
