I've been through this stage...trying to get h to realize his wrong. You have to do it cause there is nothing you can do to stop yourself...you are so hurt, so angry, you lash out at h. It's a phase...one I've gone through. I called the ow too and talked to her. After she found out about me, she quickly lost interest in h...she thought we were d'd already. Poor woman.
Anyway, love is stronger than any dumb stuff you do now. Apologize to h for your behavior and move on.
Nitaf, you got to remember that there will be no winners in this if you continue to have the mentality that YOU are responsible for your h's decisions. There is nothing you can do to influence the choices he's making now or in the future. It is his decision. You can only do for you right now. Don't look for anymore info on ow. The more you bring up ow the better she will look to him. Right now your h sees you as the needy one...not ow. You've GOT to turn the tables!!! Next time you feel the urge to vindicate yourself or to show h how wrong he is....DON't. I can tell you right now that it will not get you closer to h!
Let go, girl! Let h go for your own peace of mind. Have faith...he'll come back as you make yourself more attractively unavailable.
