Let me paint a clear picture of what's happening in your sitch.
You are Pepe Le Pew Your W is Penelope Pussy (the cat trying to get away from him)
Need I say more here??
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I want to make a comment about WAW throwing back this line to the LBH who makes a plan to put in place a boundary on no OM, "that's controlling!".
That is classic line of turning the tables against the LBS so he'll back off which will allow her to continue with the OM or even take the A further underground.
I've seen you burn your shoes on the ground full stop every time W throws that line at you, Tar. Why's that? Because you are too afraid of the blow back from W.
So what! Let W blow her gasket....until she's blue in the face. Because you're not moved at all by her histrionics and stand strong & firm like The Thing from Fantastic 4.
