WAW, she had an affair, separating to "think"

[jb13529]

Hi all, it's been a little while. I meant to post earlier, but actually got a little busy.

She is leaving tonight, and I am actually a little relieved. I have not been able to really "detach" and I always suck us into R discussions. Maybe it's all to sudden for me.

It's been very weird having us interact positively (mostly) and then have her say "good night" and go to the guest bedroom. It's so hard to grasp that your wife is not your wife.

The other thing that is killing me is the knowledge that her OM that she "wasn't really seeing anymore" and her are flirting online more, and seeing each other every day at work. She has expressed, quite clearly, that she will be sleeping with him when he is up for it. She knows that there is no real relationship, but will explore her feelings regardless.

Man it [censored] to have your wife lust after someone else, and not really want to be in your company. Like everyone here, I keep wondering when she stopped being mine.


ANYWAY, her leaving will make it easier I hope. I am busy GAL and am planning to NOT engage her and not be available for her when she needs me. I am having trouble even wanting to think about a future together, as I am an afterthought for her right now. So I will detach, be friendly, and hope not to give in if she wants sex.

I'm still having trouble understanding why I should bother with someone who can walk away from family. Because we were a family, and she simply doubted that it was what she wanted.


The best I can do, for the next two weeks, is to keep treating her with respect, and to keep my distance.