I have to say I am doing good w/the conatact thing now. I had it bad in the beginning but the more I stooped initiating the easier it became.Sometimes, like last nite when his cell comes up on caller ID, i just tell tell S get the phone, it is daddy. he said let me sapeak to mom. I got on the phone and said let me call you after i get out of the shower and he called me 4x's before i got the chance to call him. He said he wanted to talk about my S's B-Ball game earlier that evening. My S had a bad game and H is a coach. After the game he and my S had it out. When S got in the car w/me he said H was using prfanity when he spoke with him and he was upset. My initial reaction was to call him and let him have it. I have learned not to speak to him when I am angry so I din't call. He mentioned the convo with S when he called and I said, I totally support you in everything you are trying to teach S about working hard and being a better sport. I thank you for being a coach and a great day but it is upsetting for him to hear you use prafanity because he has feelings and wants to be treated the same way that we wish to be treated. When we use prafanity usually the point soesn't come across because we are so busy focusing on I can't believe h/s is speaking to me like this. He agreed and said that he apologized and I said great. He said well I will see you guys tomorrow. I'll be with S while you are at your LITTLE tennis lesson!(haha) I did end the convo w/ILY and he said it back.
The other funny thing is that at the B-ball game i needed a pen and told S to ask someone and he asked H. H comes over and says why do you needs a pen? I said to keep S's stats. Do you have one? he said, no. I think I thought I was exchanging #'s w/someone.
